How to avoid your breakup

You start to feel less connection and interest from your lover every day, as he seem to stay away from you or stop taking care of you. Think about when you first met each other. Then try recalling the reasons why you both got together,

As relationships progress, so does life. Your finances could increase or decrease, family members can affect your lives for better or for worse, and so on. Life situations influence the dynamics between a couple, and they must try to prepare themselves to deal with it.

 

Even though some breakups can happen by surprise, it can hurt just as much or more when you are stuck in a relationship where there is no love. If your relationship is in trouble and you fear the inevitable, here are some suggestions that may help you to save it

 

Take time to tell your partner why you love him.

 

 Not once, but often. This can be something as small as a compliment on how they look. Your partner needs to know you appreciate them. Don’t just assume they know. Everyone likes to be reminded they are loved.

 

Are your lines of communication open?

A healthy relationship needs open avenues of communication. Arguments, sarcasm and snide comments are not communication and you need to learn to communicate with respect. Considering that you would not speak to friends or colleagues in that manner, why would you speak that way to a loved one?

 

Don’t Lie!

 

Everyone lies occasionally. It’s in our nature. This isn’t an excuse to lie to your partner. Every time you are caught in a lie, a little more trust is taken away. A healthy relationship requires trust. Never ever lie about things important to the relationship. You’re better off facing the music if you’ve done something wrong then being caught in a lie.

 

Are you hearing?

Are your partner's interests something that you pay attention to? Do you really listen to what your partner is saying and give him/her equal time to explain his/her side? Sometimes we turn a deaf ear to all except what we view to be right. Talk in a normal tone and really listen to the other side of the story next time there is a conflict. You are not always the only one who is right, and you could be missing something that is important if you would just listen.

 

Never try to solve a problem when you are angry.

 

Take time to cool down. I know this can seem impossible at times but think about it. Is anything ever really solved when you are yelling at each other?

 

 

 

Are you a good listener?

Do you have any idea what your partner's interests are? Do you hear their opinion when you argue and let them have a fair chance to explain their point of view? There are times when we just have to be right and we won't listen to anything someone else says. When a problem presents itself, try to be calm and open-minded to your partner's opinions and listen to them. Otherwise, you may miss hearing something important and, yes, sometimes you are wrong.

 

Resist making accusations.

 

Approach your partner calmly, without being defensive. Tell him/her the problem. Don’t be accusing or they will become defensive and yes, you will end up in an argument. If you find it’s easier to write it in a letter, then do so. Leave while they read it so you aren’t hovering over them, waiting for their reaction. Let them process what you have said. Again, do not be accusing. Tell them you want to make your relationship better. Have suggestions for BOTH of you, not just them. Be sure you know the core problem and aren’t just mentioning a symptom.

 

Be supportive and look for ways to give your partner the things they need the most.

 

Even if they don’t tell you what they need, you can figure it out if you pay attention. Some people have a hard time telling you what they need but there are clues. If you’re not sure, ask.

 

Don't listen to anything that is not true.

Do you continuously imagine false situations about what your mate does or thinks? That little voice in your head tells you things like your mate has lost the desire for you since they didn't stop what they were doing at a time when you needed attention. Ignore those mistaken beliefs because they are distorting reality for you.

 



Be patience

No matter how bad is the situation, you need to be patience to act upon it. A person with high temper creates more troubles during arguments. Perhaps, you must always stay calm and listen to the opinions of the other side. If you are arguing with your partner, never ever raise up your voice when dealing with this circumstances. This can prevent conflict from happen thus easy to handle. If you have the patience, you will always stay calm in handle any bad conditions. The more patience you have, the lesser breakup will occur during an argument.

Try to stop being demanding.

Not being able to do things without your significant other nearby is unhealthy for your relationship. Dependency has led to a number of relationship failures. You need to understand that it is normal and necessary for you and your mate to take some time apart to do little things, like shopping. If you discover that you want to spend all of your time with your mate, take this as a sign that you should get a hobby that you can do by yourself.

Consider your future

Plan your future with your partner. Consider the future of this relationship. If a relationship without future planning, this relationship will no be last longer. You need to plan out a future plan between you and your partner. In fact, this show you are serious about this relationship and looking forward to extend the growth of it. People like to be love and protected, only love is not good enough to retain the relationship. You have to work out a future plan hence prove that you are more committed.

 

 

 

1 Comments on this post

  1. I think this post offers some very interesting tips.

    As a relationship expert (www.ChoiceRelationships.com), I would like to stress that one of the main problems in a relationship is that couples have conflicts and they don’t know how to deal with them. But there are skills that can be learned! When these skills are known, a couple will fare much better. I offer a free teleseminar, “The 7 Tools to Manage Conflict Communication in Your Relationship.” To hear it, go to: http://choicerelationships.com/teleseminar_resources

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