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Speed dating, you probably heard about it in some magazine or surfed through it on internet or probably read about it somewhere. But chances are like most others you haven’t had a first hand experience at it.
Wondering if speed dating is the thing for you? Here’s all the basics to help you determine if you want to give speed dating a try….
What is speed dating?
Speed dating gained social acceptance among the young in the late ’90s. It is a kind of a round-robin meeting where several daters meet potential partners at a one-on-one at the same event. Each date typically lasts ten minutes or less before you move onto the next potential mate. Within that time period, you must get to know whether whom you want to continue seeing, and why.
10 common speed dating questions :
- If we got into an argument, how would we settle it?
- What are you most proud of in your life?
- Is sexual compatibility important to you?
- Is religion important to you?
- What do you do for fun?
- Why did your last relationship end?
- Do you want or do you have any children?
- What do you do for work?
- What do you look for in apposite sex?
- Do you want to get or have you ever been married?
Do and don’t for speed dating
- Use your flirting techniques – if you’re interested let them know! Eye contact, the occasional friendly touch and using the date’s name often are useful tools. Unless you really want them probably best to stay clear of licking your lips suggestively!
- Have a number of stock questions ready. Five minutes may not seem a lot but there is nothing worse than drying up.
- Dress well (and this applies to men too!) Speed Dating tends to attract the fashionable and well groomed.
- Observe basic safety guidelines when meeting matches. Meet in a public place, tell a friend where you are going, don’t give out your home address to easily. In other words, USE YOUR COMMON SENSE!
- Use the break and “after dating” times to chat and meet. If you fluffed your lines during your scheduled date, don’t be scared to make an approach later for a second chance.
- Be careful what you eat, particularly if food is served during the dating. Is your date likely to enjoy the sight of you gorging on noodles? Probably not. Stick to simple, non-spicy food you can share.
- Relax. Research has proven that over anxiety in potential partners is one of the 3rd biggest turn off for women and the 5th for men.
- Tell lies! Might seem like a good idea at the time, but how long could you pretend to be a brain surgeon/dolphin trainer/ballerina for if you met again?
- Have unrealistic expectations. Speed Dating can be a great way of meeting available people in a short space of time but it may be unrealistic to expect a string of dates on the back of the evening.
- Forget to fill out the Speed Dating cards after each rotation. There is nothing worse than getting to the end of the night and pondering that special person with the wonderful eyes and thinking: “Now what was their name?”
- Use excessive swearing. This is often a big turn off for both sexes.
- Talk overtly on controversial topics. Of course you don’t want to be completely bland, but think about it- would you really like to listen to your rant on Israel‘s conduct in Palestine ?
- Be tempted to give your personal contact details on the evening. Might seem like the most natural thing in the world at the time but email contact is safer, and more fun, to start with.
- Get blind drunk. You can imagine it- the music pumping, the lights down low, meeting a string of attractive, unattached strangers…and you flat out on the floor telling the nearest person: “I love you, I’ve always loved you…” Watch those matches fly in. Not.
What do you wear for speed dating?
The key in choosing your outfit is to dress attractively without dressing to attract. In other words, your goal is to meet a potential mate, not just attract attention, particularly from the wrong kind of person. A good rule of thumb is to look at yourself in the mirror before leaving and determine if any particular article of clothing or exposed body part could be distracting. If you pass this test, you’ll know the people you meet will be able to focus on you, not your clothes or a body part.